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How do I ask my parents about estate planning?

On Behalf of | Dec 13, 2022 | Estate Planning

One common problem that people have when they want to find out if their parents have done, any estate planning is that they feel anxious about bringing it up. Estate planning could be something of an awkward topic. It requires you to bring up your parents’ own passing, which may make them feel uncomfortable, and you may think it sounds like you’re just asking about how much money you’re going to get.

Thankfully, there are a few tactics you can use to make this go smoothly and show that it’s not all about the money. Here are a couple of examples of ways to bring this up:

Use an anecdote

If you’ve seen a story of someone else passing away without an estate plan, you can use this as an anecdote to demonstrate why you don’t want that to happen to your own family. It could be a celebrity death, for instance, or even another person within your extended family. You can use this example to show how passing away without a will causes confusion, has tax implications, can cause estate disputes and much more. 

Use your own plan

Another option is to work on your own estate planning. This is useful at any age, after all, so you can get your plan in place and then mention to your parents what steps you took, what documents you chose, what decisions you struggled with and things like this. Bringing up your own estate plan can make them feel like it’s less confrontational and like you’re all working on this together. It puts the family first, which should be the goal of estate planning.

Once you begin your plan or start talking to your parents about theirs, be sure you know all of the legal options at your disposal.